A Dad is someone who taught you how to…..
…. ride a bike.
…. throw a ball.
…. balance a checkbook.
…. drive, even if that meant putting his life in your hands.
Dad is an action word. When action is needed, Dad takes the lead. When something needs to be fixed or built or mowed or cut or tended to, Dad takes the first shot at it (and hopefully is able to admit defeat and hire a professional when needed). Many Dads aren’t comfortable with babies because they don’t do anything (other than lay, sleep and eat). But as soon as they are big enough to play, Dads become their #1 playmate. After so much action, is it any surprise that when we talk about celebrating Father’s Day, we talk about letting Dad take a nap?
I can imagine it is often hard for Dads to let someone else take the lead and choose what to play, what to do and where to go. Not only Dads, but all parents, must get to a point where we hand over the reins to our kids and let them decide what interests them the most. Dads have to accept the fact that their daughter might think baseball is boring (gasp) or that their son would rather learn to code than learn to play chess.
There is a quote floating around social media today: “My father gave me the greatest gift anyone could give another person, he believed in me” – Jim Valvano. It can be done in a conversation or by practicing with them night and day or holding their hand or giving them a hug to take the stress away. Believing in your child is the most powerful action of all.
I started writing this blog because I wanted to have deeper conversations beyond "How are you?", "Busy", with other parents. Over the years I've shared personal stories, articles, authors and topics to facilitate conversations with parents about the joys and the challenges of parenting.