Last week, before the BIG football game, my friend Kealy was overheard saying “I’m going to bring these earrings, just in case I want to change earrings later.” When I heard that I thought “That is a girl who likes to keep her options open!” We (read me) could learn a lot from her.
We could learn that when you leave the house, it’s good to have a couple options. How many of you can say that? (My hand is not raised.) Most days when I leave the house, I have an agenda, a plan and a SCHEDULE. Now, maybe all those words are the same thing in your book…..but whatever you choose to call them or how you choose to look at them, the bottom line is you know where you are going and when you are going there. If you are anything like me, there is little room for deviation from said schedule. It is organized to work like clockwork and maximize the number of items that can be checked off your list. Taking advice from Kealy, maybe we should build in a few more options, allowing for a little more flexibility in our day.
Second, we could learn that when we leave the house, we have made our best decisions in that moment, BUT we could change our mind. (Shrug, ladies, you know it happens.) Kealy left the house wearing the earrings she knew were the right ones, but she wanted to feel the vibe of the party to make the final decision. When she got there, the vibe could dictate a small wardrobe change and she wanted to be prepared, so she planed accordingly. How many of us do that? (Again, my hand is not raised.) Rarely am I feeling the vibe of anyone else around me (well I’m getting a little better, but still). How many times have I been that mom dragging a toddler through Target who is obviously hungry and tired and who has no business shopping, except to check some item off mom’s to-do list? (Guilty but getting better.) Again, taking a page from Kealy, feel the vibe and then make the decision.
Third, this girl has attention to detail. She knows people will be looking at her for her fashion expertise, so she is making sure to cover ALL the bases. She feels she is at her best. How many moms have walked out of the house with mismatched shoes? No earrings? Wearing the same thing as yesterday? All of us have, don’t lie. Kealy knows that when you feel good about how you look; everyone can feel your positivity and confidence and it makes a big difference.
You are probably wondering, as I was, if the extra earrings were called into action? It has been confirmed the extra pair was NOT needed during the big game party, but as the saying goes “better safe than sorry”. At this point I should probably mention Kealy is four and a half and already has more fashion sense than I’ve had in my entire lifetime.
Children continue to be my biggest teachers, when will I ever learn things do not need to be so complicated?
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I started writing this blog because I wanted to have deeper conversations beyond "How are you?", "Busy", with other parents. Over the years I've shared personal stories, articles, authors and topics to facilitate conversations with parents about the joys and the challenges of parenting.