Last week I wrote about how inevitably people will let you down because they are never going to act exactly how you think that they should. The saving grace is that you get to decide how you will react. You can decide to act from a genuine place instead of doing things based on the reaction you think you will get in return.
This week, I want to talk about the flip side - people can lift you up. People can surprise you by showing you more compassion than you ever thought possible. We are here to help one another. We live in families and communities so that we can utilize other people’s strengths so that we do not have to work as hard. There is no need to try to do it all yourself, there are people waiting in the wings to help you out.
In her new book, Love Warrior, Glennon Doyle Melton talks about what it was like when she started writing her blog and people she knew started responding and relating to the things she was sharing. She writes:
“We’ve spent our time together talking about everything but what matters. We’ve never brought to each other the heavy things we were meant to help each other carry.”
How many conversations have you had this week where you have talked about everything but what matters? I think about those conversations you have in passing at school drop off/pick up or passing in the halls at work. You speak about how busy life is and make small talk. You can talk for quite a while, without ever scratching the surface of having a “real” conversation.
It was the second sentence that stopped me in my tracks when I read it, “the heavy things we were meant to help each other carry.” She is so right. We are supposed to help each other carry the load. How many of us muscle through believing that we are strong enough to do it all, to carry it all on our own. The truth is we don’t have to. When we share what we are going through and get it out in the open, there is a lightness that follows. We no longer feel that heaviness of it weighing inside of us. Once you share you can start to move forward from it, instead of replaying it over and over again.
So as much as people can let you down, people also have an amazing ability to support you, if you let them.
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I started writing this blog because I wanted to have deeper conversations beyond "How are you?", "Busy", with other parents. Over the years I've shared personal stories, articles, authors and topics to facilitate conversations with parents about the joys and the challenges of parenting.