Unfold is one of my new favorite words. In my mind’s eye, the word unfold makes me think of an image of a flower or maybe one of those videos where a flower blooms in seconds right before your eyes. Unfold is a delicate word that is to be spoken softly or with an air of wonder and excitement. It is also a word that implies patience - to unfold is to do something slowly, something that cannot be rushed. You have to watch and wait and see what appears as it unfolds before your eyes.
The word unfold runs counter to our busy, everyday lives. Who has time to watch something unfold? We are on a schedule, there are things to do and places to be. It’s like that flower bud in your garden. You noticed it was about to bloom, but when have time to check on it again it has fully opened. You completely missed the time in between.
Unfold is not a word we often use when we talk about our kids, but we should. Childhood is a time of discovery. A time to watch our children find their way and develop their personality. It’s like a beautifully wrapped present. You may start by carefully loosening the tape. However, as soon as we see a little opening, it’s like we can’t help ourselves. We rip off the wrapping anxious to see what is inside. We want to skip to the end result without allowing things to unfold.
What would change if we started allowing things to unfold? How different would it be if you approached your children from the perspective that they are in the process of unfolding who they are?
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I started writing this blog because I wanted to have deeper conversations beyond "How are you?", "Busy", with other parents. Over the years I've shared personal stories, articles, authors and topics to facilitate conversations with parents about the joys and the challenges of parenting.