My house this morning is the exact opposite as it was yesterday at this time. Today everyone is still asleep. Yesterday there was light and excitement, this morning it is dark and quiet. Yesterday there was anticipation, happiness and joy. This morning there is calm, contentment and peacefulness. The craziness of the holiday season is over and we have all survived.
As we sat in our Christmas Eve service, the pastor delivered his sermon entitled “Fear Not”. There are multiple references in the Christmas story where someone, usually an angel, begins by saying “Fear not”. I’ve heard the story many times and have never really given much thought to those two words, we usually focus on what is said after those words as the core of the story. What struck me was two things. First the reassurance to fear not, do not be afraid, that without those words the listeners could have focused on the fear to the point where they didn’t even listen to anything else that was said. The second thing that struck me was what would have happened if fear had overtaken them? It wouldn’t have been a very good story if the recipients of the messages were paralyzed by fear and stayed right where they were.
Fear is a common thing, we’re all afraid of something, but is it holding us back? Is there a message that you are missing because you’re stuck thinking about how scary it might be? Is there something that you avoid doing because it makes your heart beat a little faster? What is that one thing you really want to do but………. Success Coach Kelly Atwood recently said “Feel the fear and do it anyway.” This has become a personal mantra for me. Whenever I start to feel that little twinge of nervousness, I imagine Kelly standing beside me saying “do it anyway!” In order to grow and keep moving forward, we need to face our fears or at least face the things that make us feel uncomfortable and push through them.
This next week is typically one where we reflect on the past year and get ready for the year to come. Whether you formally set resolutions or not, think about what you want to accomplish in 2016. It could be big or small, just try to be specific. Write it down or type it out, somewhere that you can refer to it. Even better, tell someone else and keep them posted on your progress. Whatever you do, fear not and do it anyway!
Sometimes there is a bit of a letdown after the holidays are over - two years ago I referred to it as the Holiday Hangover. If you are feeling the “holiday hangover” or feeling a bit stuck when it comes to your fears holding you back, you are not alone! Let’s talk through it and set up a plan that will work for you.
I started writing this blog because I wanted to have deeper conversations beyond "How are you?", "Busy", with other parents. Over the years I've shared personal stories, articles, authors and topics to facilitate conversations with parents about the joys and the challenges of parenting.