 Like many people, our Thanksgiving tradition includes a road trip. The drive from Phoenix to Los Angeles is between six and seven hours, depending on how often you stop and how fast you drive. The beginning of the trip always starts out with a lot of excitement. Eager for the journey ahead, spirits are high and there is constant chatter over what awaits us at our destination. Batteries are fully charged, bags are filled with fun stuff to do and snacks are plentiful. The trip has begun.
An hour into the trip, we get our first “how many more hours?” The answer isn’t a popular one, but it’s accepted and they easily go back to their movie or game of the moment. During the middle of the road trip we are surrounded by open roads and desert for as far as the eye can see. There are few places to stop which makes it easy to keep going, moving forward and all the while getting closer to our ultimate destination. The last two hours are always the hardest. Surrounded again by the comforts of a city, there’s an anticipation that any of the exits could be “the one”. Legs are starting to cramp and tempers are starting to flare. Snacks are no longer a special treat and everything to do has turned boring. Inevitably we get stuck in traffic, which slows the trip down even more. ‘Are we there yet’ becomes a banned phrase that can no longer be uttered by any human within the confines of the vehicle. When we finally arrive, all the excitement and energy from the beginning of the trip returns. Hugs from family members erase any tension that built up over the miles. You can finally take a deep breath, there is comfort simply in the fact that you have arrived. As we were driving, I couldn’t help but think about how the weeks between Thanksgiving and Christmas are also like a road trip. You start off excited and happy. Somewhere in the middle, it gets harder and you wonder if you are going to make it. You want to pull off the road. Obstacles get in your way that you down. You may have to take an unexpected detour. When you are in the middle of the trip it’s easy to feel like you are never going to get there but through it all, but your destination remains the same. I hope you are packed and ready to go. Set your GPS and if you have to decide between two routes, let your heart be your guide. The road trip to the holidays starts today. Heart-FULLy Yours, Kacey p.s. You may be thinking, the blog is great, but I could never do that! I disagree and am here to help! Let’s schedule a 30 minute consultation to define what matters most to you right now and create a plan on how to spend more of your time doing that. Email me at balancedheartcoaching@gmail.com and we’ll work out the details. p.p.s. You can now get my blog in your inbox whenever I post! Sign up at the top of the page with your email and my blog will be delivered directly to your inbox.
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 Over the last couple weeks I’ve had a couple people ask me “What’s your blog about?” Oddly enough the question catches me off guard and I struggle to answer because to me the blog is about so many different things it’s hard to narrow it down. I usually end up responding that it’s about parenting and work life balance. That it often includes funny stories about my kids going through various situations where someone always responds, “my kids do that too”. Even though I think that was a pretty good answer, the question is still nagging me.
The blog is also my chance to share quotes, ideas and concepts that I’ve read about that make me stop and think. This week I read a quote from the book “The Upside of Stress” by Kelly McGonigal: Stress caused by the news, as opposed to stress caused by your life, is unique in its ability to trigger a sense of hopelessness. Watching TV news after a natural disaster or terrorist attack has consistently been shown to increase the risk of developing depression or post-traumatic stress disorder. One shocking study found that people who watched six or more hours of news about the 2013 Boston Marathon bombing were more likely to develop post-traumatic stress symptoms than people who were actually at the bombing and personally affected by it. Can you believe that? People who watched over 6 hours of news on the bombing had more symptoms than the people who were actually there! That is crazy! What a vivid reminder that what we choose to pay attention to matters. This week on Facebook millions of people created word clouds showing their most used words in their posts over the last year. I’m not typically one to participate in all the Facebook quizzes but this one intrigued me. My word cloud can be seen above. There are many words that stand out at first glance: time, day, love, beautiful, happy, one, think, kids and weekend. But as I looked at it again, the words that really stood out were time, day, love and one. Shuffling them around they make the phrase “Love one day (at a) time” which is another accurate description of what this blog is about. It’s about giving yourself a break, not being consumed by the to-do list and taking time to enjoy each day as it comes. The blog is also my opportunity to share with you some of my favorite things. This week we will all celebrate Thanksgiving, one of my favorite holidays of the year. I love the outpouring of gratitude that is not only expressed but also felt during Thanksgiving. In one of my favorite quotes, Marie Forleo says it best: Gratitude is simply a deep and genuine sense of appreciation for what you have in your life. For things big and small. For the air you breathe; the unconditional love of your pet; for blessing of someone who loves you. And this shouldn’t just be an intellectual or mental exercise, it should touch you and fill you up emotionally. Because when you genuinely fill yourself up with the emotion of appreciation, it changes how you feel and it completely alters the actions you take and, therefore, the results you’ll create. Happy Thanksgiving! Heart-FULLy Yours, Kacey p.s. You may be thinking, the blog is great, but I could never do that! I disagree and am here to help! Let’s schedule a 30 minute consultation to define what matters most to you right now and create a plan on how to spend more of your time doing that. Email me at balancedheartcoaching@gmail.com and we’ll work out the details. p.p.s. You can now get my blog in your inbox whenever I post! Sign up at the top of the page with your email and my blog will be delivered directly to your inbox.  Have you ever noticed that when you focus on something you start seeing it everywhere? For example at the end of a recent workshop, I encouraged the participants to look for the word “joy” and when they saw it to post a picture in the event group. In just a few short days there were pictures of joy in all shapes and sizes. Given the time of year, “joy” is pretty easy to find if you are looking for it.
Focusing on specific things always brings them to the forefront of what we pay attention to. If you are looking for a new car, you will see the car you are interested in all over. If you are thinking about planning a vacation to a special destination, you may start to see articles and references to that place more often than usual. Have a new baby? Babies are everywhere. Your kids are interested in something new? All of a sudden that new character, toy, video game or sport appears whenever you turn around. I suppose it makes sense – we are exposed to thousands of messages and images on a daily basis. Most of these messages remain in the background because we simply cannot process them all. However when we are focused on something, that specific item or idea breaks through the noise and grabs our attention. Of course it works the opposite way as well. Does your child/spouse/co-worker/friend do something that drives you crazy? Chances are you are going to notice every single time they start doing it. Are you worried about health/finances/job? Every sniffle/dollar/project will be placed under a microscope, reviewed, analyzed, criticized and second guessed. It’s easy to focus on the negative. Somewhere we started to think that if we worried about it, it would somehow get better. It’s unrealistic to think we can ignore negative things but what we can do is decide how much of our attention we give to each situation/feeling/person currently in our lives. Author Mike Dooley says “Thoughts become things.” What are your thoughts? Where is your focus? Pick something and see how often it crosses your path this week. Heart-FULLy Yours, Kacey p.s. You may be thinking, the blog is great, but I could never do that! I disagree and am here to help! Let’s schedule a 30 minute consultation to define what matters most to you right now and create a plan on how to spend more of your time doing that. Email me at balancedheartcoaching@gmail.com and we’ll work out the details. p.p.s. You can now get my blog in your inbox whenever I post! Sign up at the top of the page with your email and my blog will be delivered directly to your inbox.  This week my husband and I celebrated our 15th wedding anniversary. Because I am a numbers girl I had to do the math - fifteen years is over 30% of my life! No wonder I have been feeling like it is such a big number, I’ve almost been married longer than I was in school. I know that there are plenty of other couples out there that have our 15 years beat by a mile, but unfortunately these days, we are not in the majority.
I often talk to new moms and while I expect to talk about their babies and motherhood, many of their struggles are about the changes they feel in their relationships. When you are pregnant you focus a lot on how your life will change with the baby in the house, but it’s rare to think about how your life as a couple will also change. It’s hard enough figuring out what all the baby stuff is about, add to that exhaustion and a changing dynamic in your relationship…..it’s enough to turn your whole world upside down, flip it around and back again. So what’s our secret? Here are a couple of the biggest lessons we’ve learned:
Heart-FULLy Yours, Kacey p.s. You may be thinking, the blog is great, but I could never do that! I disagree and am here to help! Let’s schedule a 30 minute consultation to define what matters most to you right now and create a plan on how to spend more of your time doing that. Email me at balancedheartcoaching@gmail.com and we’ll work out the details. p.p.s. You can now get my blog in your inbox whenever I post! Sign up at the top of the page with your email and my blog will be delivered directly to your inbox. |
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